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LC Sharkey (they/them)'s avatar

This is a thorough and very accessible explanation of empathy, and our culturally imposed limits on it. Thank you!

I would add that being able to do the same things on your list necessitates a willingness to feel discomfort (the "growing pains" of confronting our "shadow side," and/or the vulnerability and fear that often accompany conflict.) If we aren't willing to be uncomfortable, we won't be open to growth, and we will be defensive in conflict instead of seeking equitable resolution. Personally, I use my meditation practice to guide me in this, but there are many other ways to develop a consistent practice, depending on each person's preferences, physiology, and external considerations. Whatever the chosen method, an intentional, consistent practice is a necessary part of unlearning the damaging parts of our social conditioning.

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The Language Matters Memo's avatar

Thank you for reading and commenting and I think this is such an important build. Not being willing to sit with the discomfort people feel is probably one of the biggest blockers to feeling said empathy. These things aren’t easy but absolutely worth it 🙏🏾

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LC Sharkey (they/them)'s avatar

Definitely worth it!

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Penny's avatar

Thank you for another beautiful and inspiring and insightful newsletter xox

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The Language Matters Memo's avatar

Thank you Penny 🙏🏾. Really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment 💛

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